Deciding that your relationship is over and it’s time to break up is usually a difficult decision. The process can be quite painful for both parties and many of us are guilty of staying in a relationship that we shouldn’t simply because it’s easier or less scary than being single.
So, what are the warning signs that your relationship is over?
1. Communication has broken down
Communication is key in every relationship and therefore, if communication is breaking down in your relationship it may be a sign that the end is near. If you are unable to talk about issues or the things that bother you, you will find that minor problems begin to spiral into bigger ones that may result in unnecessary arguments.
To test the communication in your relationship, set some time aside to spend together e.g. by going for a meal or a walk, and just talk about your relationship. If this conversation is difficult, it may become clear that at least one of you have checked out and you know it’s time to call it a day.
2. Sex has dropped off
A healthy sex life is important for every relationship and it should suit both of you. However, if one of you has completely lost the desire this could be a sign that a friendship is more fitting than a relationship.
Naturally, your desire will ebb and flow, but it’s when it dries up completely that you may want to question the longevity of your relationship.
3. You start arguments
If you or your partner are noticeably picking fights with each other this can be a warning sign that it’s the beginning of the end. We start arguments when we are feeling irritated by the other person and therefore try to push them away. So if you’re finding that the small things that you used to find cute are now infuriating, it may be time to move on.
4. You are bored
When the honeymoon period is over, there may not be as much excitement and romantic gestures in your relationship. There’s nothing wrong with spending more time together in front of the telly than at romantic meals, however, if you start to find you’re feeling bored then you may need to inject some more excitement again.
If one or both of you can no longer be bothered to make an effort, then you may want to question how serious your relationship is.
5. You are not being affectionate
Do you miss your other half when they’re away? Do you tell them you love them often? Do you enjoy cuddling them? If these feelings are a thing of the past for you, then maybe your relationship should be too.
6. You daydream about single life and attracting someone new
The odd daydream is harmless, however, if you are regularly having full-on daydreams about single life and fantasising about other people then you are already checking out of your current relationship. Why is your mind wandering if you are happy with your current partner?
7. You don’t make plans for the future
One of the most exciting parts of being in a relationship is making plans whether it be weekend trips or simply a nice dinner. If spending time with your other half, however, is starting to feel like a chore it may be the end of the road. If you’re feeling like you want to avoid them, then it would be better to avoid the relationship full stop.
While relationships are rarely easy and require some work from both parties, it’s important to recognise when it’s worth the fight and when you are fighting a losing battle. If a few of these warning signs are popping up regularly then it may be time to go your separate ways.