The relationship you have with yourself is the most important relationship you’ll have in your lifetime. In the words of our wise queen Ru Paul, “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else!”
If you want to have a successful intimate relationship with others, you need to work on yourself first. Relationships aren’t often plain sailing, however, they are certainly easier to navigate when you are confident about who you are and what you want from life.
To start building a relationship with yourself, think about how you would build a relationship with a best friend. Your best friend is someone that you’re always there for, someone who you support when they’re down and cheer on throughout their challenges. So, let’s set self-criticism aside and start building your relationship with yourself.
Think about hobbies and interests that make you happy
As we get older and life gets busy, it’s easy to start neglecting the things that make us happy. Some of us aren’t even sure what we want to do as hobbies, but the good news is it’s never too late to start something new.
Ensure that you are putting yourself out there and getting stuck into activities that make you happy. If you can choose a couple of areas to focus on, you’ll be able to set out and make sure you do it.
Be kind to yourself
Most of us are guilty of being our own worst critic. There’s an annoying little voice in our brain that can go into overdrive if we make a small mistake. However, while this negative self-talk may start-up naturally, it’s important to find a healthy way to replace it with positive self-talk.
Next time you find yourself thinking negatively, stop, take a step back and think about the positives of your day. We all make mistakes, but they don’t need to define you so focus instead on what you are in the present. If it helps, look in the mirror and tell yourself “I am confident, I am successful, I am worthy”. It takes practice, but if you keep working on your positive thinking it will sink in and become a natural thought process.
Live a healthy lifestyle
Looking after your body is important, after all, we only get one for life. A big part of self-care is ensuring we have a healthy diet and exercise regularly. We know that diet and exercise have a big impact on our mood, energy levels and brain functionality so we should all be making an effort to treat our bodies well and feel good as a result.
If gyms aren’t your thing, there are plenty of other ways to get some exercise into your day. Tie getting active in with your hobbies then you can be healthier and enjoy yourself at the same time!
Do something nice for yourself
When was the last time you took some time to pamper yourself? Doing something nice for yourself will make you feel good and build appreciation within. While you may enjoy a relaxing spa day, self-care doesn’t have to be fancy. Something as simple as booking that doctors appointment you’ve been putting off counts as well. Don’t let life get so busy that you neglect yourself.
Make your goals happen
Set yourself manageable goals for what you want to achieve this month or year. Write your goals down or create a vision board to help you stay on track and put it somewhere you will see it every day. Completing your goals will boost your confidence and help you to achieve more!
What do you struggle with when it comes to building your relationship with yourself? Leave us a comment below!